to the anonymous person that asked if they should become friends with benefits with their ex:

i’m sorry but i didn’t read the question properly and answered wrong and so had to delete it. but here is my answer:

i think sex is a key ingredient in a happy and healthy life and improves your emotional state, and having regular safe sex with someone you trust (such as a friend with benefit) is the perfect way to do that if you’re not in a relationship, as opposed to having unsafe one night stands everynight! however, i don’t believe having a sexual relationship with a serious(?) ex is a good idea, because i’ve tried it and it took me a LONG time to stop going round in circles. your feelings will be all over the place and unless you think you’ll get back together, i think all it will do is hurt you. it went on for years with me. if you want to have regular safe sex with someone then a friend with benefit is perfect, just not an ex!